That’s 20950 more people than Hillary Clinton rallies!
0 media coverage.
I was there, like 10,000 people couldn’t even get in. How can people say that he doesn’t have a chance?
Clinton was touted by the media as the inevitable democratic nominee even when she and Sanders had the same number of won states and delegates. I found this to be ridiculous and believe this type pro-Hillary reporting was because the corporations who own the media (Comcast, etc) support Hillary. When the masses repeatedly hear from the major media that Sanders chances of winning are over, they start believing it and get discouraged.
This is 100% accurate, she explicitly and deliberately smeared that little girl - and funnily enough, pulled a very similar act a couple decades later, when the girls/women in question were the victims of her husband’s abuse in the 90s. (So much for “there’s a special place in Hell for women who don’t support other women.” Fuck you, Hillary.)
In my late twenties, I’ve come to accept being cheated on as a normal part of dating. Whether I look back to my experiences or that of my friends, lies and betrayal are recurring topics. It’s not that all women are saints and all men are dogs. Cheating is universal despite a person’s gender. It has a lot to do with our fear of missing out. If we’re happy with one person that feeling is fleeting. As soon as we find stability, we think about what’s missing and focus our attention elsewhere.
This doesn’t condemn our generation to lackluster relationships. It’s more a sign of our selfishness. We can’t promise more than we’re willing to be accountable for when it comes to loving another person. A part of being ready to enter a healthy relationship is learning from past mistakes. This is why being cheated on isn’t always the darkest hour. It’s an opportunity for reflection and growth.
Here are some ways being cheated on changes you for the better.
You learn how to process and control emotions
It doesn’t matter if it’s the first or the fifth time you’re experiencing betrayal. The anger and disappointment awaken a flurry of emotions you never knew existed. What Beyonce expressed in Lemonade is exactly what this rollercoaster feels like. The stages of grief she shows — intuition, denial, anger, apathy, emptiness, accountability, reformation, forgiveness, resurrection, hope, redemption — are all recognized by anyone being cheated on.
The beauty of going through what feels like the end of the world is that it teaches you emotional maturity. Instead of resorting to juvenile tactics, you grieve with your head held high. There’s no contacting the side chick or blasting your ex on social media. You’ve been there done that and know it won’t change the irreparable damage. The only way to heal is to face your emotions head on without losing yourself in the madness.
Being cheated on reveals a side of relationships Disney didn’t teach us. It exposes the cutthroat nature that exists in all people. Until you’re on the receiving end, this issue is black and white. You may think identifying a cheater is easy or ignore warning signs in your own relationship. It’s not that you think you’re untouchable. You’ve just been fortunate enough to see the good in people without doubting them.
But once you’re deceived, you become aware that anyone can cheat. This raises your level of awareness and makes you a little more cautious. You start to question everything and think you’re going crazy. This is something we all go through when the wounds are still fresh. But once you can trust again, the uncomfortable feelings fade and you learn not to expect the worst.
You realize sometimes love isn’t enough
Growing up a hopeless romantic made me believe love could fix anything. As I went through my own dysfunctional relationships, I clung to this falsehood. It wasn’t until my mom told me something so obvious that my logic changed. When you don’t have kids, a mortgage, or other investments tying you to your S.O., you can walk away with ease. Love is powerful but sometimes it’s not enough to repair the damage that comes with being cheated on.
If you want to stick around and try to make it work, more power to you. Just know that when you reach the point of exhaustion and frustration you have an out. The person you’re walking away from won’t be the last person you love.
You learn how to forgive
When the stages of grieving are behind you, you understand your ex has to live with what they did. This revelation allows you to see the situation from a different perspective. Instead of wanting to punish them or make your ex’s life miserable, you don’t care. It’s not your job to make them atone for their wrongdoing.
This point of indifference means you’re ready to forgive. Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things you can do. It allows you to let go of the negativity you’ve been carrying. You’re not plagued by anything from the past and look to the future without any hesitation.
Before my first relationship, I remember how easy it was for me to proclaim no one would ever cheat on me. If it did happen, I would leave without question. And then I discovered the facade that was my relationship. The twenty-year-old me was crushed. I’m twenty-nine now and always say I’m so thankful my first boyfriend broke my heart. After the ups and downs that ensue after being cheated on, something great happened.
I grew tired of the disappointment and not feeling valued. Because of this, my self-worth skyrocketed and I was ready for something new. What I experienced isn’t unique. We all reach this point after being cheated on. When you’re down in the dumps it’s hard to see what your ex is losing. Once you dust yourself off you’re able to walk away knowing you’re the true winner.
You identify what you don’t want in a relationship
Walking away from being cheated on makes you never want to go through that type of emotional pain again. As a result, you take certain precautions and reflect on behaviors you ignored. These become warning signs that help you draw the line with what’s acceptable and what’s not. It also makes you think about how you want your next S.O. to treat you.
This exercise positions you for a healthy relationship that is stress and drama free. Once you experience what you deserve, you realize what you’ve been missing. It’s hard to go back to anything less after this.
Have you learned anything else after being cheated on? Share your biggest lesson in the comments below.
Gryffindor online description: brave, noble, chivalrous, a little arrogant and reckless at times, but an all around hero
Gryffindor actual description: "TURN DOWN FOR WHAT?" *sees spider and screams*
Ravenclaw online description: witty, intelligent, tends to be eccentric, very smart and pretty nerdy,
Ravenclaw actual description: hasn't left the house in six days, is down to one square of toilet paper but doesn't notice because they're so deep into the Internet
Slytherin online description: cunning, clever, resourceful, can be ruthless and tends to be a villain on the worst days, but loyal to those they love
Slytherin actual description: gets hit in the head with a dodgeball in p.e. because they were busy thinking of ways to overthrow the government
Hufflepuff online description: kind, sweet, tends to be soft spoken, can be a pushover, loyal, hardworking, overly nice sometimes
Hufflepuff actual description: smiles a lot thinks about food 24/7 until someone disses their friend, then all hell breaks loose
Because of rape allegations of the YouTuber Toby Turner, I’ve been really wanting to get this out there. The question that people ask a whole lot: Is It Rape?
What is rape? Rape in the broadest definition is forced sex. Penetration. This is what everyone knows and believes it is, but it’s not so black and white. So let’s get into what the law at least here in the state that I’m residing in defines rape:
Rape is any unwanted sexual contact.
Vaginal intercourse between a male and female;
Anal intercourse, fellatio, and cunnilingus between persons regardless of sex, and, without privilege to do so.
The insertion, however slight, of any part of the body or any instrument, apparatus.
Penetration, however slight, is sufficient to complete vaginal or anal intercourse.
What does this mean exactly? Well if you’re a female and anyone (male or female) touches more than just the outer labia, that’s rape. This also means that if anyone puts anything between your buttocks (fingering near the anus), that’s also rape.
Men and women can both be raped. Men can get an erection and still be raped. Men and women can climax and it still be rape. If a man is drunk he cannot legally consent to sex and there for his partner–male or female–who isn’t drunk has technically raped him. If your partner is not sober when you are that is rape. Being drunk or drugged means that you cannot consent.
If you or your partner start off by saying yes, I’ll have sex with you and just as you’re about to have sex–even if you both are naked–and your partner then says no but you still proceed to have sex with them that is rape. A yes can turn into a no.
